Do you remember your first friend/s as a child? I do, and we were good friends right up until the end of Year 9 in high school, and she stopped talking to me. I never found out why, and still wonder to this day.
That feeling of being abandoned by my then best friend never left me, ever. To this day I still struggle to walk away, but it is getting a little easier. Why you ask? Because I have finally realised my self worth and well being is more important. Granted I am 54 now, but it's better late than never.
So how do I know when being friends with someone is no longer healthy for me? When I feel empty, or sad, or get anxious at the thought of spending time with that person. No matter how much of a caring, supportive person you might be, if how you feel around someone is not making you feel good about yourself, it's time. There are no hard and fast rules about friendships, but every friendship should be about supporting each other. It should also be about having similar morals and beliefs. For me anyway.
If you struggle to support someone else, like really struggle, what is holding you back from walking away? Will the world end tomorrow if you choose what's right for you? Not likely. If the only thing holding you back is that you worry about how the other person will feel, don't let that stop you.
Why spend your own life trying to do what you think is right, for everyone else?
Be there for the most important person, you.
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